Family Stress Questionnaire
Instructions: This questionnaire can help individuals assess their stress levels related to family and identify areas that may need attention or intervention. Please rate the following statements based on your experiences over the past month.
1 = Strongly Disagree, 2 = Disagree, 3 = Neutral, 4 = Agree, 5 = Strongly Agree
- I feel overwhelmed by my family responsibilities.
- Conflicts within my family cause me significant stress.
- I find it difficult to balance family time and personal time.
- My family life is a source of emotional strain.
- Financial issues within my family cause me stress.
- I often feel unsupported by my family members.
- The demands of caring for my children/elderly relatives are stressful.
- I feel that my family does not appreciate my efforts.
- I worry about the health and well-being of my family members.
- My family environment is often chaotic and stressful.
Scoring and Interpretation
Add the scores from questions 1-10 in the Family Stress Questionnaire.
You can interpret the total scores as follows:
- 10-20: Low stress
- 21-30: Moderate stress
- 31-40: High stress
- 41-50: Very high stress
Work Stress Questionnaire
Instructions: This questionnaire can help individuals assess their stress levels related to work and identify areas that may need attention or intervention. Please rate the following statements based on your experiences over the past month.
1 = Strongly Disagree, 2 = Disagree, 3 = Neutral, 4 = Agree, 5 = Strongly Agree
- I feel overwhelmed by my work responsibilities.
- Conflicts with colleagues cause me significant stress.
- I find it difficult to balance work and personal life.
- My job is a source of emotional strain.
- I feel underappreciated at my workplace.
- The demands of my job are beyond my ability to manage.
- I worry about job security and future prospects.
- My work environment is often chaotic and stressful.
- I feel unsupported by my supervisor/management.
- Work deadlines and pressures cause me significant stress.
Scoring and Interpretation
Add the scores from questions 1-10 in the Work Stress Questionnaire.
You can interpret the total scores as follows:
- 10-20: Low stress
- 21-30: Moderate stress
- 31-40: High stress
- 41-50: Very high stress
Marital Stress Questionnaire
Instructions:
This questionnaire is designed to identify areas of strength and areas needing improvement in a marital relationship. For each statement below, indicate how much you agree or disagree with it by using the following scale:
1. Strongly Disagree
2. Disagree
3. Neutral
4. Agree
5. Strongly Agree
Communication
1. My partner and I communicate effectively about our needs and concerns.
2. We often misunderstand each other.
3. We regularly talk about our day and share experiences.
4. I feel heard and understood by my partner.
Conflict Resolution
5. We can resolve our conflicts without yelling or arguing.
6. Our arguments are usually productive and lead to solutions.
7. We avoid discussing difficult topics to prevent conflict.
8. We often compromise to resolve our differences.
Emotional Support
9. My partner provides emotional support when I need it.
10. I feel emotionally connected to my partner.
11. We regularly express our love and affection for each other.
12. I feel valued and appreciated by my partner.
Financial Stress
13. We have disagreements about financial matters.
14. We are on the same page about our financial goals.
15. Financial stress is a significant issue in our relationship.
16. We have a clear plan for managing our finances together.
Intimacy
17. Our physical intimacy is satisfying for both of us.
18. We have similar expectations about physical intimacy.
19. Lack of intimacy is a problem in our relationship.
20. We make time for physical affection regularly.
Scoring:
– Reverse score the negatively worded items (2, 7, 13, 15, 19): 5 becomes 1, 4 becomes 2, 3 remains 3, 2 becomes 4, and 1 becomes 5.
– Sum the scores for each section and then the total score.
Interpretation:
– 80-100: Low marital stress, high satisfaction.
– 60-79: Moderate marital stress, areas to improve.
– 40-59: High marital stress, significant issues present.
– Below 40: Severe marital stress, needs urgent attention.
Now that you have taken and scored the three questionnaires regarding family, work, and marriage – you probably have a better idea of where your stress comes from. And don’t worry, most of us human beings experience some level of stress in all three of these areas! Self-knowledge is good – even if it points to the fact that we need to take some action to reduce our stress level in one, two, or all three of these areas. Here are some action steps that you can take to help with the stress and get yourself to a better place psychologically:
Maybe your stress level is beyond what you can handle right now, and you need some professional help to make your way through some high-level stress. Reach out to a licensed mental health provider for some professional assistance. It takes courage to ask for help, and asking for help is oftentimes the first step in getting better.
Not to be TOO self-aggrandizing, but one beginning step would be to read, enjoy, and digest the stories contained within our book, Thai Hut Tuesdays. We wrote the book so that others wouldn’t feel alone in experiencing the stress in their own lives. We are with you! Joe and I have experienced stress connected to all three areas, and we decided to write about it both for our own therapy (we both need it!) and to help others know they are not alone. We are all in this thing called “life” together. It’s good to learn from each other and lean on each other as we make our way through the many chlleneges of life.
Talk to someone that you trust about your results. Share your results with your spouse, BFF, boyfriend/girlfriend, co-worker, pastor – or WHOEVER! Sharing is caring, and it will be another avenue for you to be honest with yourself and a trusted other.
Come up with an action plan. Make a “short list” of three things that you can immediately do that will help put a dent in your stress level. Maybe it’s a commitment to exercise today. And anything counts here. There is research that suggests even taking a 15-minute walk will improve your present mental health and physical health. Maybe it’s a commitment to yourself to take 15 minutes out of your day to do something just for you, including resting, praying, meditating, or a bajillion other possible self-care activities. Maybe it’s to take five minutes and write down three things for which you are grateful. Maybe your action plan includes doing a kind act for another person. It really doesn’t matter where you start and it really doesn’t matter what you do. What really matters is – that you DO SOMETHING.
Dr Bob and Joe 